Decluttering starts in your mind. The first step when beginning to declutter is to pay attention to your thoughts.
Your thoughts are not you. You do not need to identify with your thoughts. You just need to become aware of them. Pay attention to that little voice in your head. Everyone has one and it is time to hear yours. Have you made friends with the voice? Does the little voice in your head help you or criticize you and keep you in fear?
Once you recognize you are not the voice in your head you can begin to have a fun and friendly conversation with it. The more you do this the more fun it can be. Is that voice telling you, It’s too hard to start to declutter, it is too much to handle and it will take too long ? or it might be telling you don’t remove the artwork that Jimmy made or you’ll be sad. Then you can tell that little voice this is not true. You are bigger than that voice and you do not need to believe it.
Remember things do not have a memory attached to them. You are the one that attaches the meaning and the memory to the things. If you can understand this then letting things go does become a little easier.
So then, the memory comes up in the mind as you look into a box. You may think, I remember when Jimmy painted this picture and it reminds me of when he was a child. The question is, if I remove the picture Jimmy painted will the memory go away? No. Will it change the current relationship that I have with Jimmy? No.
If you want to remember Jimmy then all you have to do is ask your brain mind to recall a time when Jimmy was younger. You may even call him on the phone to say hello. You do not need to keep the items Jimmy made in order to maintain the love you feel for him. The love is within you, it is you.
Sometimes we hold onto items as a memory of the past and sometimes it is worry about the future. The voice in your head that says, even though I haven't used my camping gear for 5 years, one day I may get back up to the mountains, one day….
Each of these thoughts prevents us from living in the present moment. These thoughts prevent us of being joyful and grateful for who and what you have and need right now.
Decluttering the thoughts in your mind will help you live in the present moment. Be who you are today. Right now. Not the person you used to be or the person you may become.
All we have is today. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not here.
Be Here Now.